Can't Believe I'm doing this...must be because I'm learning to love

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punk_rocker86
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Its a long story. But I'll try to make it short. This has a little to do with porn, but mostly its about my brothers priorities.
My Brother, Logan, had his first girlfriend when he was 18. This girl just so happened to be on my basketball team (this was a few years back when this happened). She was only 16, and I knew her WAY better than Logan did. I can say a lot of bad things about her, but I don't think Jesus would like me saying them. Just know God was not number one and she was desperate.
They dated for over a year. My parents and I did not support it whatsoever because it was not a right relationship. Purity wasn't much of a factor. Like staying away from intimacy. They did all kinds of stuff and I have no clue to this day how they just didn't end up getting a hotel room by the end of it ( they better not have!).
Anyways, the relationship ended badly. It took my brother over a year to realize this girl just was not right. She gave him no respect, humiliated him many times (you know very well you never do that to a man, exspecially in front of other guys), and was never serious. Here's an easy way to put it: she was self-centered.
I know I'll probobly be bashed cause of this, but I was happy they broke up. I wasn't happy that things didn't work out, I mean I was praying for her too. I was praying that she would understand that God needs to be in the center of things in order to be happy. But she never got the message. So therefore, I'm glad they broke up cause she was very very close to getting into the marriage bed with him. And I'm thankful that my brother got out when he did.
God hasn't really been my brothers top priority since I've known him (which just so happens to be my whole life...strange). My mom gave Logan counciling during his relationship about God and what the relationship really is in His eyes. We kinda thought that after the break up, Logan may start to get closer to God and understand that with love, you let God pick the girl and you never get in the way with Him.
It was quite the opposite.
Logan hates women. He bashes about them all the time. He can't stand them. He's always talking about how women were meant to please the husband, do the housework, feed the kids, and do nothing else. He's pretty much calling me worthless then. And I don't like it. Me and my mom talk to him, but of course he doesn't listen. He literly never shuts up.
I'm pretty sure my brother hasn't gotten over the hurt he went through with his ex. Thats the only reason I can think of why he's bashing women like he is. I know he has friends who aren't Christians. He doesn't like being around the Christian guys because he says they are "stuck up" for the most part. And I know one of his friends views some porn, or else why would he have the playboy lady figure all over his truck?
The other night he went to a friends house to see a movie. When he got back, I asked him what movie he saw. This was two weeks ago, before the new "Fast And Furious" movie hit theatures. Well, he told me that was the movie they watched, the new one, at this boys house. I knew he was lying. So it made me wonder exactly what movie they were watching, for the fact that this boys house is the same guy who has he playboy stickers all over his truck.
So my brothers priorities are not straight. God isn't a factor, and never have I been so concered for his soul. I mean as a sister,a sisters role is usually to dismiss the brother all together. Well thats how we were when we were kids growing up. Its funny now that I think about it. And for once I'm starting to care about him because we have NEVER gotten along, and still don't for the most part.
I'm asking everyone here, can you please pray for him?

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punk_rocker86
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Thanks! I really appreciate

Thanks! I really appreciate it. He's become very hard headed. Another problem is, I have no clue how this came about, but He clearly does not like us as a family. He even admited he didn't want anybody to know we are his family. So that hits hard.

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With God's help

Everything is POSSIBLE...I'll pray for your brother too
May the peace of our Lord be with him
Bruno
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I will pray for Logan too.

I will pray for Logan too. Sounds like he does not have closure from his past relationship. When there is no closure it is very hard for a person to move forward, especially into another relationship. I believe he does not hate women, but hates what she did to him. He finally saw it all a year later and the resentment and hatred set in.

As I tell others, man or woman...there will always be the happiness in a relationship and hurt feelings when things end. They usually end because that person wasn't right for them in the first place. In saying that, he needs to look at it that way in a positive light. She wasn't the girl for him. We cannot waste our days and years away because of someone's immature actions, nor can we take it out on others. As the others didn't hurt him, only her.

I have told several girlfriends in the past, that I am not the one that hurt you, so don't take out your frustrations out on me. Take them out on your ex, or move past it. As there is no room in my circle for it...and my heart just can't take the beating.

Logan will be in my prayers, not only for what he is dealing with, but to strengthen your relationship as brother and sister. One thing I've learned over these years, family matters.

God Bless.

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You've got it!

Hey there I'll be praying!

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