Tips for reaching out in Strip Clubs
[b]TIPS FOR REACHING OUT TO SEX WORKERS AT STRIP CLUBS:[/b]
Use discretion and common sense - Dress down in jeans and a black shirt not your Sunday best. Stay away from bright and noticeable colors. The sex industry is dark and you want to blend in and stay unnoticed as much as possible.
Call the strip clubs first and tell them you are a group of ladies who makes gift baskets for strippers and would like to drop some off. Be sure to put beauty supplies, perfume, along with Gospel tracts and a Bible. Make sure you give the "girlie" stuff though as a basket with a bunch of Christian books and a Bible is going to offend them. It's like saying, "Hey big sinner we want to help you." But if you add perfume, jewelry, and beauty supplies or bath sets AND a Bible then that will work. Medicine ALWAYS goes down better with sugar!
If the club owners give you a hard time then tell them you just want to drop off roses for the girls. Usually Friday and Saturday nights is when most of the girls are there. Although the clubs are open during the day as well.
Attach a card to the roses that you PERSONALLY wrote to the girl telling her she is loved by the Lord and you would love to take her out to lunch. Tell her you are helping with Pink Cross Foundation. Go make some business cards with Pink Cross info on it. Click here to see cards I made on Vista Print:
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Don't put "Need help out of porn" as that's for porn stars but instead put, Need help? Keep it discreet. The club owners will be watching you and so keep it cool and be friendly with the club owner and take an interest in his life. Ask God to give you favor with the club owners and girls. Be sure to fast and pray with your church group first and then Holy Spirit will give you strategies from heaven!
If you go at night, go in a group of three ladies but don't take like 6 or 7. Don't overdo ANYTHING. Just be cool and kind and don't look shocked if you go inside. Body language is very important. Stay calm and kind and you will do fine. Then ask Holy Spirit to show you which girls you may be able to approach.
If the club owners ask where you are from just tell them you are a group of ladies who have a heart for strippers and just want to do something nice for them. Don't mention CHURCH.
Some times I walk up to the stage where the girl is dancing and I tip her $5 along with my Pink Cross card and I tell her YOU ARE MADE FOR GREAT THINGS, YOU KNOW THAT? Then I tell her, hey come talk to me afterwards. Then she comes and I may hand her another $5 and I look into her eyes and I say "Do you realize how special you are? I just want you to know you are made for much greater things than the sex industry. Then I share my testimony and that God loves them and has a better plan for their life. For those of you who don't have a testimony, tell them your friend is an ex porn star who has a ministry and you'd love for them to check me out on the web or myspace and give them my card. You don't need to sit there and preach the Gospel all night to them as they will NOT have time for that. THEY ARE WORKING. Your Gospel tracts and Bibles will be in the basket or if you only give them my card, the Gospel is on my web site and myspace so they will definitely be exposed to the Gospel and many will come to the forums here and learn about Christ as well. You can share the love of Christ and tell them God loves them and has a better plan for their lives and if they look interested and want to keep talking and it seems safe for them, then share more about Jesus and His love and sacrifice for them. But usually they can talk about 2-5 minutes and then they have to go back to work. Always be respectful of the girl and her time.
And always be careful not to get the girls in trouble. Keep your eyes open if club owners are looking at you, work quickly and then let the girl go. Keep in mind you are reaching out in the SEX SLAVE TRADE, not just some nightclub. If you don't use wisdom, you could get the girls in trouble or worse. Friday and Saturday nights you can get away with more as there will be more people.
PS: You don't need to tip all of the girls, I'm only talking about girls the Lord shows you to do that for. Obviously most of us can't afford to tip girls all night.
Anyway, these are some of my tips that have worked for me. I will write more later when I have time. Love you all!!
Comments
So what do I do? I want to leave the strip club. Sometimes, I go there and don't even make any money. I get told all the time that I'm too good to be there. But who will employ me? Who will give me a job really? I have been job hunting for years now, even gone to a specialist to write a c.v, but it doesn't work. I need practical advice. I have started volunteer work to get me into a job, but how long will that take? I'm trying to get the money together to go to college, but I owe my accountant £300, Christmas is coming and I don't have money, I keep trying to stop and I realize that I am worth more. I don't know what to do!! I have rent, I have bills. How can I change my situation?
Love or Friendship, What does it mean? This is kind of a question for everyone. Its also probably a question in the wrong spot, but I am good at that.
There is a lot of talk in here about Jesus or God's love and from an outside, I wouldn't be sure what that means to me personally?
There are things said, like for example He died for us, but what is the census as to what kind of love we are talking about> Thats the first question and the second is harder. What kind of love can a person expect here, from the people on the forums?
I think the reason needs to be stated because a person coming in not used to God or His people, may not really understand much or very little and if the do understand some things, those things like the do understand may not be good beliefs about what love or friendship.
What is our individual commitment and as group what are we willing to do for them?
I honestgly tried to look on the web site and did notg find a real commitment or an Overview? of what they will get here. Not looking at it from our side of things, but from maybe a hooker or some sort of sex worker as phone sex or maybe video sex, or mistres or even madam?
Sarah
God does have a plan for everyone and everyone is called to be a part of ministry somewhere. All jobs in ministry are important as it is designed by God to be a servant and save lives. God gave us so much, but how much do we give Him in return?
The purpose of this site is to provide a place where people can come and talk about their struggles, and find healing and encouragement, in a non-judgmental Christian atmosphere.
Beloved Branch
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Ps. 108:13 Through God we shall do valiantly, for it is He who shall tread down our enemies
"Keep in mind you are reaching out in the SEX SLAVE TRADE, not just some nightclub."
Very true and most owners, don't want to loose their property, which is another reason why it is difficult to get out of the business.
AND really try to be REAL friends? (who stole the smiles?)
Sarah
God does have a plan for everyone and everyone is called to be a part of ministry somewhere. All jobs in ministry are important as it is designed by God to be a servant and save lives. God gave us so much, but how much do we give Him in return?
This is so important. It needs to be apparent that you are there because you care about these women, as Christ cares about them, and not to put another notch on your spiritual belt.
Beloved Branch
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Ps. 108:13 Through God we shall do valiantly, for it is He who shall tread down our enemies
Which ones are safer? I would like to do something, but I would like some directions about whether or not it is safer to go to a place that is small versus a big money place. I have access to either type of location.
I love Shelleys ideas! In addition to that, here is some of what we do.
I always call the manager and get permission to come and drop off gift bags for the girls and then I go over and meet the manager and set up a time, get a count of how many girls are on shift, including the bartenders and the door girls and waitstaff, then we pick a time to go back when they are not as busy ( so we can talk with them) and bring the bags.....the girls love them! our whole goal is to establish relationships so we come back for lunches and in the night, spend money in the club and tip well, because everyone is working and I want to respect that....
Once we establish a relationship with the manager, we set up other events in the club. In the begining, I explain that I am a former dancer and it is a tough business to work in and I want to bless the girls. I have never been told no yet....:) we tell managers that we are there to minister to the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of the women- we are upfront that we are Christian, but we are not there to drag them out of the clubs. We are there to introduce them to God and then walk that out with them....little babysteps....God is the one who will get them to quit and then we can help them with that, and we will help them with other needs while they are still working....its all about walking through the doors God opens in their lives to us.
We are going to one next week to do pedicures for the girls. The manager loved the idea and is letting us use the VIP room....we will get to minister to them one on one and for about 30 minutes each, and I am really thrilled about it, we have annointing oil for their feet and we are going to pray for them that God will pour His love upon them, because they have an amazing destiny in the Lord!....we are trying to set a schedule to do this for an entire month and let the night shift know and book them for a day (like Saturday). This club has 80 girls so it is alot of feet! our regional coordinator is a massage therapist, so that is a big help.....
The cool thing is that Jesus lives inside us, so when the management invites us in, they have invited Jesus in as well!So the Club is invaded by the presence of God, and we operate in an open heaven while we are there! And we love these girls, they are so precious to us, we are thrilled to serve them as they come to know the Lord....
Carolemarie
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I've been putting off getting started on this very thing: reaching out to the women in a strip club a few miles from my house. God put it on my heart a few months ago, and I've only taken baby steps so far. Today I finally took another step by registering on this forum. How cool that you posted this article--on the exact topic I needed to read--just a few days ago. I guess that's a God thing!
Thank you for the great tips. I'm currently asking God to bring along others who will help me. I've considered something that might be too much too soon, so I'd like some feedback from "the experts." What about approaching the club owners/managers and offering to be a chaplain for the ladies?
I've been in full-time Christian work for fifteen years, but not at all in this type of ministry. My focus has been on college students.
After reading what Shelley wrote, I'm thinking starting with gift bags/baskets is probably best, and as I show consistent love to them all and have built a bit of trust, working eventually toward the chaplain idea. What do you think? Is it a crazy idea?
Debbie
Shelley;
That is so awesome!!! Thank you so much for that.