I'm new to this forum, but I have tried other forums for support before. I am a big fan of Daily Strength, a support network, but there isn't a big community of wives helping other wives. I love the concept of this site because I will get to speak to other Christian women with the same experiences.

So...my story...

I found out my husband was a porn addict about 1.5 years into our relationship. There was a lot going on for both of us and I didn't think there was anything *I* could do, I thought it was up to him to "fix" what needed to change. I learned after finding out more and more that I needed to take an active role in his recovery. My husband stopped viewing pornography around late January of this year. I found out last week that he started viewing again on June 30th. He had almost 5 months of "sobriety" under his belt...now I don't know what to do...

I see a therapist, but not for the porn addiction. I meet with her again on next Thursday, so I think I am going to bring up the issue with her.

I want my husband to start seeing a therapist, so we looked up some names/numbers yesterday on-line. He is on vacation this week, so I am hoping he will take the initiative to call some of the therapists. What have you ladies had for experience with husbands seeing a therapist? Should we go together to every meeting? Should he go alone to every meeting? Should I go once a month to the meetings and he go alone to the rest? I'm not sure what to do. I would like to go with him sometimes, but I understand if he needs/wants to go alone.

Now, as for support from my pastor...I haven't brought this subject up to my husband yet. He is Christian, but he does not go to Bible Study/Church with me on a regular basis. His mother died a few years back and he is having a hard time dealing with his anger towards God. I'm giving him space for this and he knows our pastor is available when needed. I'm wondering if I should talk to my pastor privately about DHs addiction. Our church is very, very, small. My sister and her family (6 people), myself and one other woman are the only members...does this change the amount of support and help I can get from my pastor?

Okay, now after a novel and tons of questions, I need to make some dinner. Thanks for listening, I look forward to hearing responses!