I appreciate all the encouraging comments everyone! God has been good to me and has absolutely helped me break my addiction to pornography and masturbation. I've been clean from both pornography and masturbation for almost 4 months now, and it has been the best four months of my life! God's timing is truly amazing. I approximately 3 months ago I met the love of my life, my first (and hopefully last) girlfriend. I've waited to have a relationship because I believe God would show me the right girl at the right time, and I believe he has!

Currently, the devil has been tempting me pretty badly lately. I haven't fallen in either area but it has been tough. I have an accountability partner in my youth pastor. I also have learned to devote and pray much much much more than I previously did. I could use some extra prayer that God will strengthen me, and shield me, from the devil's attacks!

On a side note, I HIGHLY encourage getting an accountability partner if you are struggling with this, preferably someone you can meet face to face with. I am now holding a couple kids at my youth group (I'm a youth leader at my church) accountable, for both relationships and pornography. I am so thankful that God has done a work in me and I pray he will strengthen all men to do the same. It's time we all start to respect women, and first and foremost it's time we DESIRE to glorify God in everything we do!

In Christ,

Alex

Hi Alex, My name is Champ from Thailand, I had watch porn the same age as you, Now I m 22 still struggling to quit.

You are not alone

God will help us both through this crisis, Heads up man.

I will pray for you

Champ

Alex, I'll be praying for you man, sicne it is our strongest tool. I noticed its been a little while since you've been on here and just wanted to encourage you to stay strong. I know the devil hasa way of divertign our midns from what we shoudl be doing, or even wanting to come visit this site, or watever, distracting us in inumerable ways. Just wanted to tell you I too have/am in that situation where I have always been in the spotlight as the "good guy" yet inside i was as rotten as ever. Well I am sure you have ehard it as much as I have that Jesus saves and forgives and HE DOES, even in our failures i encourage you to run towards our heavenly father for help and support, becuase when we fail the devil seems to rub that in our face and hidner us from getting help. With the Lord and only throguh him can we break free. The Lord has given us back our lives and to live with him eternally what better way to live than at least try to give back to him everything we can includign our time, our minds and everything that embodies us. Its harder said than done, and with the Lord and only through him can we become free, and able to work in ways so much more amazing than we can imagine for our savior. He saved us once and he can save us a again. What an amazing journey we are on, and let the little opportunities of turning the eyes away or going to read your bible, or stopping thoughts in our track be those little victories in which we glorify our father in heaven, to HIM be the glory!!! Blessings and Prayers Bro.

HI Alex it is good to know that I am not alone I feel so alone in my own personal struggle against lust,anger,and pornography.I to have been fighting with sex addiction for a long time.I started with magazines in the 1970s when a neighborhood friend his father just let him get into those magazines and soon he was spreading them to other kids in the neighborhood,his father was loose morally.Then it was my cousins leaving suggestive material in the bathroom.Then it was kids at school and on and on...untill I was addicted.Now it is 30 years later and I have the living room peep show with the internet.
I am married and will be celebrating our five year anniversary on Saturday.I am not feeling close to my wife knowing how I am breaking our matrimonial covenant each night when I am up to early hours of the morning looking at porn.Sometimes I wonder why I got married having this sickness in my heart,my father was an alcoholic and his marriage was a disaster.
The little glimmer of light shining in the darkness of pornography addiction for me is that I have a loving father in Heaven who I call Daddy.He understands me and my struggle.I have decided to keep things really simple.I am a child of God therefore I have to walk and talk like a child of God ,children in my understanding need alot of understanding ,patience and support.For support I have none to talk to(I tried 12 step groups,church groups,talking to priest,talking to therapists) at the moment I am alone with this addiction so I talk to my father in heaven.He tells me Alex that we have to count our victories in little ways.Little things on His battlefield count and eventually all the little victories will win the war.
If all you can do are little things facing the monster of porn addiction then keep doing them one little thing at a time.For example I deleted all the porn I downloaded or I stopped spending money on rip off porn sites.Sometimes to go out and do something with your friends instead of watching porn is already a little thing but in Gods eyes a big thing because if it is done for love of Him then it is a big thing.Am I making sense Alex?I will pray for you,I have a burden in my heart top pray for addicts God bless you my friend.

You are right when you said it's ok to ask help from others. I tried to kick the porn habit so many times that I find it sometimes hard to believe that anyone could ever get out. I couldn't trust myself. So with the help of my deacon,pastor and wife I feel hope now. I just started the course on purity on the Setting Captives Free website. One thing I learned is that we must do this for God's glory and not because we want to be some super christian and have people admire us. It's great that you want to serve the Lord but remember "The Lords will be done and not my own" You don't have to tell everyone but I suggest you get help from your pastor or others you trust. You CAN NOT do this alone! You've taken the frist step by admitting there is a problem! I will be praying for you my friend. God bless

Yours in Christ
Doug

Thanks for the support! I'm not in a relationship, I always wanted to stop watching pornography before I got into anything. I feel that it tarnishes any relationship.

I agree this is a horrible addiction to kick, please take it one day at a time, it is to hard to think of it long term. I have been clean for a month and 3 days, I feel great and free and born again so to speak. I will tell you the devil comes knockin at the door every day trying to temp me. You are right, God and prayer alone cannot help you, you need to keep busy and stay around good friends and loved ones if you can. Idle time is bad! If you are on the PC for work or e-mail and you feel the urge come here and read or write something. There are good people here that can help you.

Are you in a realationship? If so staying clean will help it, if not having a clear mind will help you see your way to one. It takes time but but not that long before you feel the freedom, after all we have been addicted for many years. Another bit of advise when I feel the urge lying in bed or when I am alone I say a prayer until it passes. It works for me.

Take it one day at a time my friend and when you feel the freedom the fight will be easier. Hit me up if there is anything else I can help with.

We are all in it together!