something that is helping me, in instead of just trying to avoid the porn and masturbation, I am trying to starve it out by avoiding the things that trigger it. There is so much lust filled media all around us all the time. whether we notice it or not, it still has an effect on us, it may only be a small nearly unnoticeable effect but it is still there many times laying dormant but building up with every time we are exposed, and when the build up gets too much, then we act out and then feel like we have to start all over again. making our fight even more difficult.

I would suggest take a time of sensory deprivation, unplug for a while. when you have free time, instead of watching tv or being on the internet, start reading a book. Read your Bible, even old testament stuff is not boring once you get started, but if you just have alot of trouble getting started like I do sometimes, then I would suggest something like a informational book. last night I finished reading Every Man's Battle and it has a lot of very useful and insightful knowledge

Start good habits, like when you are watching tv, keep the remote in your hand if you can, and when you see things that give you even the slightest feeling of a trigger, change the channel, or look away. I would recommend changing the channel if at all possible because that is taking an active step to fight this thing we all know as sexual impurity.

if you want to win this fight against porn and masturbation, you must fight the sexual impurity and immorality, The Bible says to flee sexual immorality, sexual immorality is the disease and the porn and masturbation are simply symptoms of this disease.

fight the disease and the symptoms will eventually take care of themselves.

I hope this is of some help sirs.

you are all imn my prayers and I am here for you if any of you need to talk or anything, my myspace is posted so write me anytime.

God bless us all in Jesus name and help us stay strong and vigilant.

Internet pornography is a constant challenge due to its easy accessibility. It is tough and the best suggestion I can give is try to avoid going to the porn sites. It is hard, yet it can be done.

May I jump onto this thread and share my own confession.

I have posted several times over the past couple of years and I find myself in that dreaded cycle.

Knowledge is not enough to change my heart and my habits.

I find myself today, in a ritual routine of Internet Porn and Masturbation. Nearly on a daily basis.

I have dealt with many issues and I have found that for all my previous behaviors, I have settled on this one.

Basically, I find my free sites in the morning with everyone asleep...act out...erase the evidence and then start my day. This is typically M-F as the week-ends, I am focused on family stuff.

I am 39, will be 40 next week...married for 17 years, two sons ages 16 and 17.

My wife and I have gone through Abuse recovery and Addiction recovery.

I find that when I focus on the addiction/recovery, I tend to fall and go into a binge mode. I also tend to obsess with sex and find myself manipulating my wife...but under my current set up...

Acting out alone in the morning, I can get through the day without turning into a jerk. I can focus on her and her needs without manipulating things so that she will have sex with me.

We enjoy our time together, doing things together...but when sex comes into the picture it turns into a 50/50 situation. We may do well together or it may trigger abuse/addiction emotions.

When I take care of this alone, I find that I am able to meet her needs with no expectations in return.

I like this feeling, but I don't like to face the demon of Porn/Masturbation...I know there is something better, but when I stop I feel as though I turn into an ugly monster.

Is there anyone else facing this same final hurdle to being 100% sober? If so, how are you coping or finding things that could help in alleviating the drive while also enabling us to be the loving husbands we desire to be?

Dude no Problem, That is actually what I am here for. You are very welcome Sir. You can and will do this. We believe in you but ever more, God believes in you and He will never give up on you, so you don't give up on you either.

Aww my god I wanna honestly thank you for what you wrote...

Welcome welcome welcome. come on in and make yourself comfortable. You are not alone in this. We are here for you and we do love you. but God loves you more than words could ever say and much more than you will ever know.

Know this. The addiction can be broken and God has to do it. the only thing you have to do is make the decision to turn away from what your body wants. and to turn away from porn, but also to turn away from all sexual immorality. the Bible says flee from it. It is the only way you are going to get out of this trap and stay out. I do understand how uncomfortable that yearning is. I am 27 years old and I have been dealing with lustful imagery for almost 2 decades now and I stumbled onto masturbating about 14 or 15 years ago, I didn't find out that it was a sin until about 8 or 9 years ago. when I was growing up masturbation was such a taboo subject that I was never told that it was wrong because they never ever spoke of it, so I was doing that nearly every day for years and then I learned about it being a sin and tried to stop but I couldn't, it had me. so I understand how it feels to try to quit and not be able to do it.

take a firm stand in your mind and heart. Ask God to deliver you from this addiction, and for Him to give you something to do to replace those activities with things that are going to help build the Kingdom. and also ask God to create in you a hatred for the sin of not only porn but also of sexual impurity and immorality..

and that my friend is a very difficult fight. but it is doable with God's help. but just fighting porn and masturbation itself is not going to work without taking an active stance against sexual immorality.

There are people here who have been through just about any and every thing imaginable, and we are all here to help you and each other. This is a place of healing, love and recovery and not of judgment, condemnation or debate. so feel free to relax, you are safe here with us. Let God use us to love you back to health.

You can do this. and we are here to help you.

much love in Christ Jesus,

LJ Phoenix

and what ever you do, DON'T GIVE UP!!!!! :)