I love this saying as it is very true...

"So many of us are looking for 'the right person' to come along, when in reality, we can BE the right person all along."

Jesus can make that truth a reality if we will let Him. He IS the "RIGHT PERSON!"

Let's be like Jesus. He wouldn't have told us to do that if it were not possible. Besides, what finer example of Love and satisfaction to one's soul is there than Him? He IS the deepest longing of our hearts.

By the way... I didn't realize this post was for men only. Sorry.

HI Happydude,

Be happy! I'm 46 myself and when I say it's not over in the dating world for you...I mean, it's not over! God has a plan for all of us. Age is only a number. Jesus has the perfect woman for you. Someone who is going to love you like no other. Be patient.

Let God know what you desire in a mate. We all have our list's of what we would like in a mate, but do not to rely solely on your list. I have my list too, non-smoker, someone who doesn't keep an animal shelter in their home, etc. The past two years I've studied the dating habits between men and women. It is quite different from my old dating days. Not saying this is the route to go or if you've even considered it. I still believe in meeting 'the one' in the grocery store aisle or at least in person.

Many of my female friends were bummed that they couldn't meet the right man. Over and over I told them to be patient and at times, stop looking. Pray and let God guide them into your path. The same concept goes when you are ready to buy a car. You know the one you want, but when you start looking you can't seem to find it. Then you step back, take a deep breath and stop trying so hard...the car appears. Same goes for the mate God has in store for you.

If my mom can meet the man of her dreams at 60. You will meet the woman of your dreams at 46!

The woman God wants you to meet...well, He is prepping her to meet you!

God Bless Happydude!

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I forgive everything and everyone
who could possibly need
forgiveness in my past and in
my future. I am free and
they are free too. Things are
cleared up between us now and forever.

Dear Father,

Do you hear the cry of this man's heart? In as much this wounded soul desires to cooperate with Christ in a healing process, Father hear his prayer. He has already made the choice to be humble and honest with us here on this forum. Help him to surrender the thoughts, feelings, experiences and the porn that has gone beyond the numbness in his life.

As a Community of safety and love here on this sight, we desire to bring this wounded man to you Jesus. We honestly open our shared grief and souls to you Jesus. We enter into Your healing presence. Jesus, we know you are available to shine light into the darkness, into the lies, and into the stresses that so overcome our new friend. We trust that You are ready to be with us during this painful time.

In the times when our friend finds himself in the middle of pain, he may not know what to do with the hurt or how to live. Jesus, show him that his wounds can be placed into your hands. Remind him that You, Jesus, absorbed and died for ALL of the wounding and sin in this world; including everything associated with pornography in his life. Jesus, transform his pain into something redemptive. There is hope, that even now, Jesus that our friend will begin to taste the wholeness that waits for him.

Jesus, hear our prayer.

Amen

We are so glad you are here with us. I totally feel your situation. about telling someone, it is very important to let someone know you are struggling with this. You are not alone and There is always hope. To say that it's too late for you to have a wife or family, is to say God is not able to give you His best for you. It is never wrong to wait for God's very best, it may be a lonely wait but God will make it worth it.

while you are waiting, Ask God to give you some brother-friends to hang out with and confide in. God will surround you with His soldiers that will be there for you to the fullest extent. I say this because I have lived in this situation. I moved to a new area about 3 years ago and I asked God to put me where He wanted me to be and to surround me with people who really loved Him. Well, God blew my mind. I am single and have been for all but around a month of my life. God has given me brothers that I can talk to about anything and I can trust them and they would give their lives for me and I for them. God has also given me sisters to talk to and they have been a huge blessing to me. but I don't think I have found the one yet, however, God has made me able to wait contently on Him to bring her to me. I am only 28, but to many people that feels like time is running out. but God has shown me that He is capable of bringing or even creating the one He had for me.

So, hang in there Bob. things will get better, just don't give up. and also let God show you his people in your life. He will surprise you my friend.

Hey Bob. I will be praying for you. You've taken a big step by laying it out here. I do think you need to tell someone because you have to somewhat get the sin out in the open so you can kill it. I'm not saying announce it to the congregation at church but I'd try to find somebody who you can trust to help you, pray for you and check up on you. If they lay into you in an unloving manner they are wrong. The Bible never gives anybody permission to lay into someone who is looking for help and prayer and because you aren't refusing to repent but rather fighting the sin. Having to fight it doesn't mean much considering everybody has a sin they have to fight worse than others, even Paul. Just read Romans 7:14-25 where he talks about doing what he doesn't want to do and not doing what he wants to do.

By the way, all those people around you who say it's too late are full of it. One of the guys here where I work is 47 and he has a three year old daughter.