Help?
Wed, 07/13/2011 - 12:01
I posted a few months ago with the title "15... and struggling." It's gotten much worse. I honestly feel hopeless right now. Some people are saying I can't rely on my own strength, that I've gotta let God give me the stength but I have absolutely no clue how to let him give me the strength.
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I feel your pain brother. Though I don't have a same sex addiction, porn is porn. It corrupts our minds into makes us believe we need to keep feeding ourselves this stuff to survive. Fact: Porn is not reality, naked people looking wontonly at you from the screen is not reality. You have to find a way to live in the real and not in fantasy. For me the key was in my past. I had issues with resentment and anger at those people in my past that I had looked to for validation and they had let me down. I used porn as a pain killer and fantasy as a way to escape those feelings. That began my life of fantasy, so for me the first step was to deal with my own lack of self-love and second to live in reality. I even had to stop using the internet for a while to curb the temptation to slip. Get in the word, get into some groups that understand. Point is, get involved. Don't just go it alone. This affects alot of people and it is so peaceful to be around those that can relate to you and feel your pain.
Hi Zachrey, Did you try to overcome your addiction or just waited for it to get over? It is very difficult and you should seek help from your partner (girl friend or close friend). Have your partner read the book named "Catch Me If You Know How" so that she can help you out. This book provides easy instructions about Porn related issues. You can also visit the website for further help http://www.catchmeifyouknowhow.com The author is donating 10% of all book proceeds to charities to help at risk and victimized children. So if you decide to get the book, know that you are also helping children. Regards.
That is a good question. I had that said to me many times when I struggled with porn addiction. You have those who seem to say that it's all up to God and then those who say it's all up to us. The question I struggled to answer was which is it? The answer is that is is both. The Bible holds to both God's sovereignty and our responsibility. It's like we are the running back in football and God is the blockers. Sometimes the blocking is great and we get to the endzone untouched. Sometimes we get to the endzone but we have to break a few tackles along the way and sometimes we fail to break the tackles and we fall. Then there are other times when we don;t follow the blockers and we get levelled. I think I have a PhD in the latter one. To me letting God work in my life and letting him give me the strength to have victory over my sin is praying, reading his word, and doing what I can to be a better man of God. If I fall. I get back up. You are not alone in this. A couple years back I wrote a post for the General Discussion forums on temptation. It gives some practical scripturally based advice. I think it might help. Here is the link:
http://www.thepinkcross.org/pinkcross-forums/general-discussion/temptation-0
Scott
I think it's getting better, but I can't judge that just yet. It's been a few days
My issue. It started out as some 'harmless' pictures of shirtless guys. (Found out I was gay around 12 or 13.) I was curious, and well ended up looking up porn online. Little did I know I was making the worst mistake in my life, out of all the mistakes I've made.
It shocks me how an addiction can just start out with something sorta harmless, then 12 months later I turn out to regret the heck out of it.
very little in this life of struggle is either/or... we constantly live within the tension between how things are, and hope we hope they will be...
and so it is going to be important for you to come recognize a couple things:
Unfortunately... our world has become so twisted... and sin has grown into every facet of creation, including true intimacy... that we often find ourselves scratching and clawing just to experience something that is real and true.
And it is within that scratching and clawing that we find ourselves living... I hope that you aren't trying to fight this battle alone... obviously you are here, and so I can assume that your heart is crying out for something else... namely: wholeness.
Let me encourage you with this: it is God's will that you be made whole.
That you experience wholeness in intimacy with Him... and with at least some of the 7 Billion other people on this planet. But... it may at times be a battle.
Who do you have in your corner for this fight?
I just want to say this my precious friend. I have several friends that WERE gay/homosexual that turned their hearts over to the Lord. I don't doubt for a minute that you were born with those feelings, it's very similar to porn in that it's something that's with us and around us all the time. But one thing is that if we are born again as the scripture speaks of being born again, the Nature of Christ will come in us, it will push out our old nature. John 3, I Peter 1:23
The world and other gays want you to believe there is no hope for you. That's a lie. i know several that are not anymore. Men and women both. Some have even married and are living with happy healthy families. my precious friend, you're a jewel to the Lord. You were intended for greatness. Just like Mrs. Lubben always says.
Lord Bless you!
In what part of 'I'm addicted to porn' did you get the vibe that I'm unhappy with my sexual orientation and that I want to turn heterosexual? This site is to help people stray away from porn - NOT homosexuality. I believe Jesus Christ loves me just the way that I am. But thank you for your concern. End of subject.
Also, NEVER again compare homosexuality to porn. Unless you like making people very angry.
Just a quick suggestion, but as a teen you might find breakingporn.com another useful site to visit, if you haven't already :)
I'm sorry I don't have a practical answer to your question right now, but I am praying that God will reassure you that He is there for you, and allow you to rely on Him.