What category of erotic or porn materials are suitable formarried couple?

I guess I have to wonder why you guys would WANT to watch other people swapping diseases, degrading one another, lusting for selfish gratification, etc. for "pleasure's sake" while you're devoted Christians?

God is LOVE, right? God created sex, right? God created intimacy, right? Well, how about the next time you guys are laying there- hold each other and each say a prayer to God, thanking Him that you know Him personally and have the gift of His love in you and you want to invite Him into your marital bed with you and have HIM show you how to love each other sexually? It would be really difficult to "get turned on" if Jesus is in the same room with you guys along with all of the other women and men in porn that you're watching........ Porn is about as GOD-less as it gets.

Isn't ALL of our Christian lives in marriage supposed to honor and glorify God as a way to WORSHIP Him?

Watching porn is choosing to want to look at women being degraded and hurt and used. You are watching someones life being destroyed- and you are paying for their being degraded, and creating the demand for more women's lives to be destroyed. Porn is not healthy! There is absolutely nothing to learn from porn...those making it are NOT enjoying it! It is usually painful and always humilating. Try reading the testimonies on the board from those who were in the business and see if it sounds like fun...then ask yourself, do I want to exploit other people? Do I want my daughter making these films? Extend the same protection to all women that you would your wife and daughter!

If you want your marriage to work, throw away the porn, and simply enjoy each other, together find out what is good for you both. Nobody needs porn!
Carolemarie
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Thanks for the insight.

I apologize for bothering you with my subject and thanks for the very frankly advice. I have stopped watching such movies stuff, I admit I was felt guilty each time after watching them. I post the issue as part of my confession to the correct christian partner and want to get the truth about it.

Blessing

I'm glad that you came here to ask this question. I would have to agree with Carolemarie on this issue...pornography is not healthy or good for a marriage.

I don't think that it would improve your love life at all. It may seem like an exciting way to spice up your marriage, but in time, it will destroy it. It won't bring you closer together -- It will alienate you from each other, and destroy any sanctity within the sexual relationship.

I would highly recommend staying away from it, and not even entertaining the thought of bringing it into your marriage. By doing so, you are opening a door through which Satan can work to break down, and eventually destroy, your marriage.

Beloved Branch
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Pink Cross Forums

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Dear Moderator,

To be honest with you actually I do not like at all the the porn stuffs with hardcore or softcore terms that mostly focusing on exposing the genitals acting and more even done not by only a straigth couple but some men and women. But for several years I was tempted with the free romantic or erotic love making scene done by only a straigth couple (single woman and man) when watching movies. I was very frequent searching the internet to find the video movies with such terms yet I aware the stuffs that mostly found were the terms such as the first paragraph above.
I do really still not like even very disagree with the multiple couples doing the hardcore or softcore sex acting. Yet I began tempted to tolerate the only straigth couple doing them even I searched for it with married coouple terms. I began to develop the liberal thought about love sexual relationship by reffering the Songs of Solomon book in the bible exposing the romantic love of Solomon and his dearest spouse. I came to the thougth that if the book is filmed then the romantic scene with their love sexual acting will be exposed as it is written.
I also began developing thougth that the adult video stuffs with love romantic sexual scene done by a real married couple and wacthed privately by married couples is not against God's word, for actually sexuality is given by God in such kind of direction or corridor.
Kindly please share the truth about it. Thanks

Love and regards

yohsin

No matter how you cut it- filming one's self for the purpose of others to see is against everything godly and love. It breeds lust and that is never of God. Everyone involved is sinning against God... the porn actors and actresses are sinning against each other, they are sinning against those watching them and lusting after their nudity, you are sinning against them by watching and lusting and you are sinning against your wife (and vice versa). Most importantly, ALL are sinning against God.

There is no such thing as making "good" sex films, whether couples in the film are married or not and whether those watching are married are not. It is ALL adultery. Adultery is a vile sin before God because it produces other sins- jealousy, coveting, idolatry, envy, lust... on and on. If God is truly involved in a couple's intimacy, there is no need for other forms of fulfilment. Why isn't God and the LOVE He has to offer enough or did He "short-change" the human race and we have to have "the gift of porn" in order to be fulfilled???

God is more than enough and actors and actresses of porn need to quit sinning against the public who are watching their loveless and GOD-LESS trash.

and didn't say anything about it.
I came back and posted because I felt guilty for not telling you the truth in the first place...
I didn't mean to say you shouldn't post about a topic you have a question about....sorry for the confusion...

Carolemarie
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Pink Cross Team Member

I knew of at least two marriages one of them Christian that ended because the guy watched Porn. The truth is after a while your loved one can't match up to a younger woman who's answers is 'yes' all the time. Plus I know from my own experience and I see you've had it to, you begin to compromise in areas you never did before. Like the group sex videos you were looking at. I hated hardcore porn when I started out after a while even that wasn't working for me and I started entertaining Homosexuality and other things women weren't doing it for me anymore.This stuff can get you in trouble with child pornography, look at Paul Ruben(Pee Wee Herman).
You can rationalize,"It wont happen to me, but he didn't start out that way either he was going to adult theaters and got caught doing something he shouldn't in public in the 90's if you remember.
Now I'm not accusing you or anything but I have talked to Christian sexuality therapists who help homosexuals out of the "lifestyle if they want out. They have had more than one straight man who got into Homosexuality due to porn. You will find yourself doing things and going places you never thought you would. And you can only watch so much before your out acting out in some way.That has been my experience too.
I hope you really let go of this, it can and will destroy your marriage it has really helped me see women as objects. It has seriously scarred, and my relationships with women. The deeper you go the harder it will be to get out of it. I was introduced to it back when i was about 7 years old and used it until I was about 25 it took God delivering me to get out of it. And it is something I really have to be careful with. Even in comicbooks because I used to watch Aname Porn.

You feel guilty because no matter how a person tries to look at sex on screen, it is what it is. I've grown up very much alone and let's just say that my intimate experienace is next to nothing. I had a time in my life where I tried to justify thinking it would be ok to watch porn because I was so lonely that I wanted to to try and have some sort of emotional connection with a woman. I never dated much because I refused to sleep around and I didn't drink and so forth. I've walked a very lonely walk for years, so few want to hear about God that I ever met. Long story short was that for a time I would watch some "porn/teaching" vids trying to confince myself that it was for a good purpose. Well God knew better and the guilt I felt lead me always to stop watching even though my flesh wanted to watch. God made it clear to me that this was not right because "teaching" or not this is not good to watch. We battle against the flesh and we must continue to stay strong as Christians and never let the devil have a opening to try to get his way into our lives. To those of you who are married, DO NOT let porn into your lives because no matter what it will begin to work against your marriage. To the single people (including myself) the key is to stay in constant prayer and realize that anything on screen will always leave you feeling depressed because the Holy Spirit is telling us that this is not right. Avoid porn in ALL forms. The marriage bed is undefiled once married between the husband and wife in the marriage only. If anyone, be it on film or a actual person outside of your marriage is viewed in anyway or invited into your bedroom, your destroying the vow of your marriage.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life.