It's An Endless Circle
I am a former porn and masturbation addict. I gave my life to Christ a little over a year ago and have been completely freed from porn and masturbation since December 2009. God has been performing wonders in my life.
I am still pretty young, but way past old enough to be working. I can't find a job anywhere. I feel the heavy burden of having to depend on people in my house to support me. This situation makes me feel so trapped. Then a few weeks ago, I had a thought I haven't had since I was first addicted to porn. I thought about turning to prostitution for money. I pushed the thought away; I can't stray from my walk with Christ. But a few days go by without any jobs turning up, and the thought comes back a little stronger than the last time. I keep forcing the thought out, but the thought keeps coming back, the job places still aren't calling, and the thought comes back. It's an endless circle. I feel like I'm wearing down in the fight. Since this thought has been occuring, I have started having graphic sexual dreams again that leave me feeling drained in the morning, and I feel a little dirty again, almost like the night gave my life to Christ. I'm not usually one to share my burdens with people, but I don't think I can continue keeping this one to myself because I think if I do, I might wind up doing just what I don't want to be doing.

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Still no job. But it's okay with me now because God has revealed and comforted me that it's in His plan. I'm no longer stressing. I see it's in his plans.
Hi, Beatrix;
I'm sorry you haven't been able to find a job yet, but it's encouraging to see you trusting God, and that He has give you a peace about that.
Stand fast in that faith!! God is working something in you through it.
I will pray for your job situation
Beloved Branch
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Pink Cross Forums
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Ps. 108:13 Through God we shall do valiantly, for it is He who shall tread down our enemies
Thank you all for your replies. I can't express how much you have helped me. I don't feel like the burden is weighing so heavily on my shoulders.
I decided today to try to sell handmade items on the internet. It could work, I guess. It's going waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb for me, and I'm a little scared of trying it. But it would be something- if it worked.
Again, thank you all. I don't feel all alone anymore. :)
I will be praying for you, that God will open up a way to provide for you....I agree with everything that Jan and April shared with you....and wanted to add that prostitution is dangerous as well. Prostitutes are 18 times more likely to be murdered than other women....
God loves you, and has a destiny for you and you deserve better than chosing this life for yourself..
I will be praying for you and if you need to talk, feel free to pm me.....
Much love!
Carolemarie
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Pink Cross Team Member
Hi, Beatrix;
Welcome to the boards. I am so glad that you have given your heart to the Lord, and that you are posting here. I know you're not one to share your burdens, but when you are going through serious temptations, sharing is often the best thing that you can do.
Jan gave you some excellent feedback, but I would just like to sort of add on to what she has said. It actually sounds to me like you are handling this temptation well. You are not giving into it, because you know to do so is not an option. You know that to do such a thing would damage your fellowship with God. We cannot be in sin and enjoy intimate fellowship with God, and it sounds like you realize this.
2 Cor. 10:5 instructs us in regard to spiritual warfare, that we must bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. The Bible does not tell us that we are not going to experience temptation, or have an impure thought, but it instructs us on what to do should any impure thought arise. We must take it captive. We do this so that it does not become a stronghold in our lives. How do we do this? By putting on the full armour of God, as described in Eph. 6:10-18. Should one of these thoughts arise, combat it through prayer and the word. Have Scriptures ready, such as the ones that Jan suggested above, to defend yourself with.
I know that you are worried about money, but no amount of money is worth sacrificing you own dignity, or your relationship with Christ, for. You know in your heart that sex work is not an option for a child of God. Ask God for the faith to trust Him, and the strength to overcome these temptations.
Remember what the father of the demon-possessed boy approached Jesus in Mark 9:14-24? Jesus said to him "If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes," to which the father responded "Lord, I believe; help my unbelief." A lot of people struggle with unbelief. Don't get discouraged!! If you lack faith, ask the Lord to increase it. God honors and humble and willing heart.
Just continue to seek employment as you have been, and trust God. His timing is perfect, and He will not let you down. Jus continue to seek and grow in the Lord, and throw the thought of prostituting your body as far from your mind as you can. That is NOT God's plan for you.
Please continue to let us know how you are doing. Praying for you.
Beloved Branch
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Pink Cross Forums
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Ps. 108:13 Through God we shall do valiantly, for it is He who shall tread down our enemies
Hi Beatrix,
When you prostitute yourself you're not just selling yourself, you're selling your soul, you become a slave not only to the men you sell yourself to, but to satan.
Ezekiel 16:8-25 (English Standard Version)
8"When I passed by you again and saw you, behold, you were at the age for love, and I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your nakedness; I made my vow to you and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Lord GOD, and you became mine. 9Then I bathed you with water and washed off your blood from you and anointed you with oil. 10I clothed you also with embroidered cloth and shod you with fine leather. I wrapped you in fine linen and covered you with silk. 11And I adorned you with ornaments and put bracelets on your wrists and a chain on your neck. 12And I put a ring on your nose and earrings in your ears and a beautiful crown on your head. 13Thus you were adorned with gold and silver, and your clothing was of fine linen and silk and embroidered cloth. You ate fine flour and honey and oil. You grew exceedingly beautiful and advanced to royalty. 14And your renown went forth among the nations because of your beauty, for it was perfect through the splendor that I had bestowed on you, declares the Lord GOD.
15 "But you trusted in your beauty and played the whore because of your renown and lavished your whorings on any passerby; your beauty became his. 16You took some of your garments and made for yourself colorful shrines, and on them played the whore. The like has never been, nor ever shall be. 17You also took your beautiful jewels of my gold and of my silver, which I had given you, and made for yourself images of men, and with them played the whore. 18And you took your embroidered garments to cover them, and set my oil and my incense before them. 19Also my bread that I gave you I fed you with fine flour and oil and honey—you set before them for a pleasing aroma; and so it was, declares the Lord GOD. 20And you took your sons and your daughters, whom you had borne to me, and these you sacrificed to them to be devoured. Were your whorings so small a matter 21that you slaughtered my children and delivered them up as an offering by fire to them? 22And in all your abominations and your whorings you did not remember the days of your youth, when you were naked and bare, wallowing in your blood.
23"And after all your wickedness (woe, woe to you! declares the Lord GOD), 24you built yourself a vaulted chamber and made yourself a lofty place in every square. 25At the head of every street you built your lofty place and made your beauty an abomination, offering yourself to any passerby and multiplying your whoring.
DON'T GIVE INTO DESPERATION AND SELFISHNESS.
You should be aware that when you prostitute yourself and sin with these men you're condemning them as well.
Proverbs 23:27-28 (NIV)
27for a prostitute is a deep pit and a wayward wife is a narrow well.28Like a bandit she lies in wait,and multiplies the unfaithful among men.
Proverbs 5:3-5 (NKJV)
3For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey,and her mouth is smoother than oil;4but in the end she is bitter as wormwood,sharp as a two-edged sword.5Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell.
DO YOU NOT REALIZE YOU WERE MADE FOR GREATER THINGS??!!
Romans 6:13
3Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness.
1Corinthians 6:13 (NIV)
13“Food for the stomach and the stomach for food”—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.
2 Corinthians 5:17
7Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he (she) is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
I know it may be hard for you right now, but God is greater than any and all circumstances in our lives! HIS timing is perfect ours is not, wait on the Lord and test HIM in his faithfulness, HE will reward your faith.
1 John 4:4 (New International Version)
4You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, (the world, sexual immorality, sin, the devil...) because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.
Habakkuk 2:3 (New International Version)
3For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end (of your sorrows as well) and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.
Psalm 27
1 The LORD is my light and my salvation—
whom shall I fear?
The LORD is the stronghold of my life—
of whom shall I be afraid?
2 When evil men advance against me
to devour my flesh,
when my enemies and my foes attack me,
they will stumble and fall.
3 Though an army besiege me,
my heart will not fear;
though war break out against me,
even then will I be confident.
4 One thing I ask of the LORD,
this is what I seek:
that I may dwell in the house of the LORD
all the days of my life,
to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD
and to seek him in his temple.
5 For in the day of trouble
he will keep me safe in his dwelling;
he will hide me in the shelter of his tabernacle
and set me high upon a rock.
6 Then my head will be exalted
above the enemies who surround me; (or circumstances you are in)
at his tabernacle will I sacrifice with shouts of joy;
I will sing and make music to the LORD.
7 Hear my voice when I call, O LORD;
be merciful to me and answer me.
8 My heart says of you, "Seek his face!"
Your face, LORD, I will seek.
9 Do not hide your face from me,
do not turn your servant away in anger;
you have been my helper.
Do not reject me or forsake me,
O God my Savior.
10 Though my father and mother forsake me,
the LORD will receive me.
11 Teach me your way, O LORD;
lead me in a straight path
because of my oppressors. (or seemingly oppressing situation)
12 Do not turn me over to the desire of my foes,
for false witnesses rise up against me,
breathing out violence. (you can be your worst enemy, don't give into your flesh)
13 I am still confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the LORD
in the land of the living.
14 Wait for the LORD;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the LORD.
FINALLY, DO NOT WORRY!!
Psalm 55:22 (New International Version)
22Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.
Matthew 6:25-34 (New International Version)
Do Not Worry
25"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?
28"And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
God loves you and you know this, search your heart and seek HIM continually. I'm praying for you Beatrix. God will NEVER let you down, don't turn away from HIS covering for a quick buck. God bless you.
Jan
"So, my dear brothers and sisters, be strong and immovable. Always work enthusiastically for the Lord, for you know that nothing you do for the Lord is ever useless."
1 Corinthians 15:58, NLT