I NEED PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS
Hi everybody i am "poll" , i am a christian and i am addicted to porn. I do the things i hate and i hate the things i do. I know that petision and prayer is the way to go, but that is only part of the solution, I believe you cannot ask god to help you with sexual sin whilst you disobey his commandment toward it, which is , run from youthful lust.
I believe you must take practicle steps like when jesus says cut your eyes out if it brings sin into your life. In my situation those eyes are my computer, but i do n't want to throw my PC away because i am very far from home and i need a way to communicate with my freinds and family and i do a lot of woek on it.
If it is a last resort i will have to get rid of the computer if not at least the internet.I do n't want to do that, so does anybody know of a program that i can install on my PC to block all porn ,be it from Mozilla ,Internet explore or limewire.
Ive been looking for one all over the internet and none of the forums i've looked at have clear definite answers.
Please i need this. If I have to i will even pay to buy this software
Yours sincerly "poll"
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Hey Poll...
Jesus said that when you are 'at the end of your rope' that you are in a place where blessings are waiting for you. It seems that the cry of your heart right now is to be free from port.
God hears you.
Now... for practical...
Does anyone around you know that you have this addiction?
Are you able to talk about if face to face with anyone?
It is going to be very important for you to have someone walk with you through this... who will love, accept, and forgive you unconditionally... with a heavy dose of 'in your face' accountability.
I know that this is not easy... but we were not meant to do life on our own... even the things that bring us shame... and that we would just assume leave in the darkness...
You are not the only one to fee like the only one.
None of us can make it on our own... there are friends available.
-Chadwick
While I am sure there is software and other things that one could purchase, I am not sure that will solve the root problem. It may deal with a temporary solution, but won't take care of the long term. In the first part of what you wrote, you made a lot of statements about beliefs. Beliefs can hold one in bondage. Here is a solution and it works. The solution being, go to Jesus and lay it at His feet and tell Him this is too big for you to deal with and you need His help AND you trust Him to fix it in you.
What that does is allow Jesus to do the work He is good at and I have never heard of Jesus letting anyone down. FORGET the beliefs. FORGET everything you think you may know and go to Him as a child with simple faith and trust that He will deal with it. But also know that you will have to let it go and TRUST Jesus will deal with it.
There is a verse, Not by power or by might, but by the Holy Spirit. See if you fix it, its to your glory and you will get the credit for it. It's good you tried to deal with it and we all should, but at a point we need to give it to Jesus because it is over our heads. Then He can go to work on it.
Know that part of this is also seeking God's plan and will for your life. Many are the afflictions of the righteous. Each of us has a calling and purpose, BUT each of us need to be willing to walk in what He shows us. What I am talking about in purpose is some form of helping others. Helping others=minsitry. To serve others in whatever capacity He places you in. Then again it comes from you seeking Him for your purpose. It does not happen automatically but is part of the process of making Him Lord of your life.
It is all one step at a time and one day at a time and each day it is laying down our own agenda and will to seek Him each day that His will be done in you. The Lord's prayer is certainly part of the solution, because what your asking God to do is give you Jesus and asking that His will be done in you as it is done in heaven.
Follow the steps, He will meet you half way. It is about all of us walking with Jesus and each other every day. Then last but not least, speak it into being, which is a part of praising Him for what He is doing in your life. Yes one can praise in song, but it is also about praising Him in every day conversation. For example tell others (as it may come up in conversation, in other words don't force the conversation) that God is meeting your needs according to His riches. Praises such as these when they become a part of every day words you speak are like pills for healing.
All of this is practical application of which we all need to learn to walk in, which all starts with a decision from you to walk in these things. That is the start and really what repentance is, which is going in a different direction, learning that going in our own direction is what causes the problems.
Sarah
God does have a plan for everyone and everyone is called to be a part of ministry somewhere. All jobs in ministry are important as it is designed by God to be a servant and save lives. God gave us so much, but how much do we give Him in return?
I agree that you do need to get to the root of the problem. You can get internet filters and do this, that, and the other to try to put up barriers to try to prevent you giving in to temptation. That is a good idea, but not enough in itself. She is right. You need to be straight up with God and tell Him you are struggling with this and overwhelmed and want to stop but feel like you can't. Truly, you can't. That is the point. Jesus said, "without Me, you can do nothing." We will not succeed in battling strong temptations/strongholds without surrendering to Jesus and crying out to Him and confessing, "I can't do it!! I need You."
I had a big problem with anger. Scary problem. I got to a breaking point finally this past summer and desperately did a 2 and half day total fast. (Planned for 3 but family came into town to celebrate bday). No food, no water. I did have water once just becuz I had foolishly gone outside to fish in the hot sun for few hours and got quite weak. Now, I can see that God broke the anger stronghold. But I still have to keep watching my anger and not let it get ahold of me again.
I don't know where you are at as far as how long you've battled with it and what you've done to deal with it. Whatever you do as far as getting filters and have accountability, don't forget that ultimately, victory comes when God breaks thru in your heart and redirects your heart back to Him. I encourage you to pray that God will reveal Himself to you as the Spring of Living Water, and that you get a revelation of His love for you and be rooted and grounded in the love of Christ. That is foundational.
One last thing, I had seen a book, called, "Sex is not the problem, lust is". I forgot who the author is. You can read a section of the book at Amazon. It looks good. He talked about how he and a group of other guys who struggled with masturbation made a contract of things they would do to be pure before God, and they would hold one another accountable. I think they failed. He goes into why that doesn't work. Sounded good.
Blessings,
Tonya
"Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are Mine!...I am the Lord, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior;...You are precious and honored in my eyes, and I love you...do not be afraid, for I am with you." (Is.43:4-5)
Hi, Poll;
I agree with everyone's responses in this thread. Prayer, accountability, and the Word of God are vital if you are going to overcome this.
You asked for practical solutions, though, so I will try to address that. Have you tried any of the filtering software, like Covenant Eyes?
Beloved Branch
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